This is something that plagues many people everywhere, not just on college campuses, but also in the workforce. There are always people that are just unable to keep others' names out of their mouths, there are always those that feel the need to point out others' faults to everyone except to the person that they are talking about, there are always those that simply love to keep drama going as well as subliminially start drama in order to get a response. A lot of people do this because it makes them feel important or it makes them feel like they have status as long as they're always in the middle of a situation or have drama going on that they can say that they're involved in. One thing you will learn is that people are not always victimized or the victims in situations, some people just enjoy being in the middle of mess.....it's time to grow up.
Although the majority of us claim to be grown, claim to be independent, claim to be doing our own thing and making major moves, we have such childish mindsets. The way we think can be so foolish at times and we try to find so many ways to justify it and keep it going. But enough is enough, it's time to put aside the childish games and grow up, there is so much more to deal with and be concerned about in the world today, that we need to be bind together rather than fight one another, we have to pave the way for the next generation to be able to be successful.
When we remain in our own selfish and childish mindsets, our leadership is effected, our influence over others proves to be a negative one, and our credibility is lost. What do I mean by that? You're not going to take advice or counsel from any person that seems to always be in the middle of drama or issues, because that person can't even manage their own lives! Certain things that we blow up and turn into major issues aren't major issues at all, but can be worked out simply by talking things out privately, rather than making a spectacle and entertaining people with foolishness publicly. We have to learn to invest our time and our energy into things that truly matter and stop getting so caught up in what we think is important, we have to grow up and learn to deny our own selves and understand that everything is not about us. We can't become so self centered that we start to focus only on what's best for us and not for those around us. I'm not saying not to look out for your well being and I'm not saying that it's wrong to care about yourself, but only caring about yourself and no one else is a problem, a mindset like that will get you nowhere.
With all of that being said, we need to get off of the similac, stop acting like babies, and let's grow up, let's begin to truly deal with and discuss what matters in our lives and in our community, but we must first do that by focusing on our own selves and getting our own houses in order before we try to take the broom to someone elses.
Be blessed, yup yup!
