Press Play

A lot of males and females in this day and age are in relationships, casually dating, even been in relationships for years, many of us have invested so much time and energy into people that we care so much for and we've even sacrificed some things for these people that we find ourselves becoming emotionally attached to. A lot of females have given themselves sexually to guys that they have become so attached to and put much trust in also. BUT, a major issue that many of us are dealing with today is the fact that, a lot of us have been hurt by these very people we put time and energy into and have given our hearts to. As a result, we find ourselves suffering and dealing with feeling that we can't let go of. A lot of us have even allowed this hurt to effect our perception of the opposite sex all together and has also caused us to give up on love. We can NOT allow this to happen, never give up on love, and you have to understand that one male or female that may have hurt you doesn't mean that all of them will. When you give up and decide that you will always be alone out of fear of being hurt, you have done nothing but pressed pause, but my friend, what I'm saying is, it's time to press play. A lot of us even find ourselves rewinding the tape and living on old memories to help us ease the current pain that we are suffering, but what I'm telling you is this, PRESS PLAY past it and move forward.

Many people, especially women, have decided that all men are the same and have decided that there is NO ONE for them. But that is not true at all, one male hurting you was just that male, NOT EVERY MALE. If it seems that every male that you have associated yourself with has hurt you or is following a pattern, you need to evaluate your standards and the type of men that you go after. I say this because if you are a dime and you are attracted to nickels, that nickel is only going to be able to give you half of what you are looking for or what you need. There's a whole other half that isn't accounted for or being met with, a lot of people look like dimes on the outside but really are nothing more than petty change on the inside. A fool only sees with his eyes, you have to open your eyes as well as your ears and truly watch people, true colors always show with time.

Another issue that we have is that we rush so much to get involved with people that we don't take that time to see the type of person that they are or what they have that will compliment us. Don't be in such a rush to place a title on a person, you have to be very selective about who you invest your time and your energy into, or else you'll continue falling into the trap of giving someone your all when in return, you will get their leftovers.

The main thing I'm saying is this, don't give up, don't think that all guys are the same or that all females are the same, every single one is different although some of their methods may be the same, everyone is different. You have to understand your self worth and understand what it is that you deserve, a lot of females who don't understand their self worth or what they deserve are currently sideline chicks waiting on the day that will never come, that day where they will become the main one.

BUT, please understand that if you don't respect yourself or you aren't bringing anything to the table, understand that you're not going to attract the top prospects. A hoe isn't going to get the gentlemen, she'll attract those who want exactly what she's offering. So ladies, stop thinking that sex will keep a male because it won't. Step your game up, love yourself and respect yourself, God didn't create you to be used and abused. IF you have been hurt, don't let that stop you, forgive and move on, don't be stuck on pause, PRESS PLAY PAST IT.

Yup yup, deuces.

GET OFF OF THE SIMILAC.....

This is something that plagues many people everywhere, not just on college campuses, but also in the workforce. There are always people that are just unable to keep others' names out of their mouths, there are always those that feel the need to point out others' faults to everyone except to the person that they are talking about, there are always those that simply love to keep drama going as well as subliminially start drama in order to get a response. A lot of people do this because it makes them feel important or it makes them feel like they have status as long as they're always in the middle of a situation or have drama going on that they can say that they're involved in. One thing you will learn is that people are not always victimized or the victims in situations, some people just enjoy being in the middle of mess.....it's time to grow up.

Although the majority of us claim to be grown, claim to be independent, claim to be doing our own thing and making major moves, we have such childish mindsets. The way we think can be so foolish at times and we try to find so many ways to justify it and keep it going. But enough is enough, it's time to put aside the childish games and grow up, there is so much more to deal with and be concerned about in the world today, that we need to be bind together rather than fight one another, we have to pave the way for the next generation to be able to be successful.

When we remain in our own selfish and childish mindsets, our leadership is effected, our influence over others proves to be a negative one, and our credibility is lost. What do I mean by that? You're not going to take advice or counsel from any person that seems to always be in the middle of drama or issues, because that person can't even manage their own lives! Certain things that we blow up and turn into major issues aren't major issues at all, but can be worked out simply by talking things out privately, rather than making a spectacle and entertaining people with foolishness publicly. We have to learn to invest our time and our energy into things that truly matter and stop getting so caught up in what we think is important, we have to grow up and learn to deny our own selves and understand that everything is not about us. We can't become so self centered that we start to focus only on what's best for us and not for those around us. I'm not saying not to look out for your well being and I'm not saying that it's wrong to care about yourself, but only caring about yourself and no one else is a problem, a mindset like that will get you nowhere.

With all of that being said, we need to get off of the similac, stop acting like babies, and let's grow up, let's begin to truly deal with and discuss what matters in our lives and in our community, but we must first do that by focusing on our own selves and getting our own houses in order before we try to take the broom to someone elses.

Be blessed, yup yup!